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After a wonderful shared moment together with my wife, the moment of truth has arrived. As my wife turns around for me to remove her dress as she had done so many years before, in my noble attempt to keep the record book even at 2 for 2, my noble advance is quickly met with the reminder of the late hour of the morning, and our work schedules would soon have demands upon us.

As the horrific realization dawns upon me that there had been no implied guarantee or assurance of scoring a home run on this second attempt to remove her dress, I humorously state my case that no self-respecting male would fail to attempt to keep the record books looking good at 2 for 2.

I take a step back away from the zipper to add some melodrama to my protest.

Then it happens. The truth dawns upon me as though it were the very first sunrise.

No groom upon his first night of marriage hesitates to take off his brides dress. Only a groom with eleven years experience would hesitate. Only a bride who has to rush off to work when the dress comes off would have a reason to resist.

Then it I hear her speak the fateful words, "Hurry up, John, I'll be late for work!"

The words echo between my ears back and forth a million times as I try to understand the meaning of what is transpiring.

"Come on, John; help me out of this dress!"

Then it dawns on me.

The gig is up!

I take a step back even farther, and I ponder aloud, "Hey ...wait a minute! You're stuck in that dress ...aren't you?"

In an instant, it all comes clear to me, and I feel no less important than if I had just discovered the wheel for the very first time.

I summed up the circumstances of this unusual twist of fate, "You actually need my help to get out of that dress ...don't you? You didn't just let me take the dress off you on our wedding night; you actually needed me to help you get out of it!"

You see, it was not luck after all. It was teamwork! The very same teamwork that it takes to complete a successful wedding night is the very same teamwork that it takes to keep a marriage going strong into the future.

The truth is this. On the days when either the husband or the wife forgets their spouse is their teammate, they certainly will need good luck to get any affection or have a lasting marriage.

However, you do not need to leave it up to chance in order to have a successful marriage.

Some may be tempted to think that it should be completely natural for them to get along in order to have a successful marriage. You may be tempted to believe that if you are truly meant to be together, you should not have to work on your marriage just to be happy. There is nothing further from the truth. All good marriages take effort to develop the friendship into something that is balanced and something that will last a lifetime.

In our attempt to rewrite the marriage book from one of true love, lasting commitment, and respectful teamwork to one based upon Hollywood's romanticism, we have allowed ourselves to accept a cheep imitation that quickly ends in unsolvable conflicts, irreconcilable differences, and bitter divorce more often than not.

A marriage grounded upon respectfulness and teamwork; a marriage in which the roles of husband and wife are an equal partnership; this is a marriage that will last a lifetime!

The husband is not above his wife nor is the wife above her husband. If the husband treats the wife in a way that causes her to feel like a loser, then in reality, the husband and the wife are both losers. One cannot win while the other loses. A team either wins or loses together.